Getting connected. It might be hard to connect with people. For example, if you live in an isolated location, far from a large metropolitan area, your social resources might be limited. At the same time, though, big cities can feel just as lonely. Here are a few ideas to help you connect with others, no matter where you are.
Talk to a family member, teacher or religious leader. Even though you feel lonely, remember that you don’t have to go at it alone. • Start small. You don’t need to find a best friend or go out with people every night of the week. Just find something in common with someone, and share a moment.
Challenge your negative thinking. Chances are that you are your own worst critic. Try to look at each situation objectively to avoid being too hard on yourself. For more tips on how to do this, check out the Self-talk fact sheet.
Get outside. Try going to a park, a coffee shop or a library to do some people watching!
Join a club or a team. The best way to meet people that have the same interests as you is to join a club or a team.
Chat on the internet. Many people today find like-minded friends to connect with through the internet. The internet is a way to connect, but caution is always important.
Remember, you have choice. Sometimes what you do or think about a situation can change the way you feel about it. Consider your options. Eg, talking to a helpful friend for support, perspective, and to know you are not alone—can help.
Seek help. If you need immediate help and you aren’t sure where to turn, try calling The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or the Boys Town National Hotline at 1-800-443-2800.
Acknowledgement: This fact sheet was originally developed by youth and staff at ReachOut.com, a website that helps teens get through tough times.
LCSW CADC I
Licensed Clinical Social Worker Behavioral Health Consultant Portland Area Office/IHS