Telling Someone Difficult News About You
Find support. Having someone you can talk to about your situation can help you gain the confidence you need to tell others.
Be aware of timing. If possible, try to choose a time when the people you’re telling are relaxed or not preoccupied with something else that is going on.
Be knowledgeable about the situation. Knowing your options about the situation can help you answer questions and help you avoid stereotypes.
Understand your feelings. By taking time to work out how you feel about the situation and your needs for the future, you can make it easier for you to tell someone else.
Cope with others’ reactions. Everyone has a different way of coping when they hear upsetting news. If people react negatively, try to remember that it might be because they were unprepared for the news and might need time to think. In time, they may be ready to ask you questions, listen to answers, and acknowledge your feelings. It might also be important to explain things to them a few times as they may not have heard it the first time.
Acknowledgement: This fact sheet was originally developed by youth and staff at ReachOut.com, a website that helps teens get through tough times.