Dear Auntie, I’m a young mother and I tried everything to breastfeed, but I can’t. I’ve got major guilt because I know how good it is suppose to be for my baby. How do I move on?
Mom guilt is real and she’s a relentless beast.
It doesn’t help when you’re bombarded as a new mother with all the things that you must do for your child. These are good tips to strive for because we all want the best for our children, but sometimes it’s just not physically possible.
The truth is breastfeeding is hard. Crazy hard for lots of different reasons, aside from your biology. Sometimes our bodies just can’t physically do it, no matter how closely we follow as the expert tips. It can be made even harder when we hear posts about all the benefits that we are not able to provide if we can’t breastfeed.
I’ve talked to lots of moms who no matter how much they were or weren’t able to breastfeed still felt guilt about not continuing longer, for whatever reason. I had this idea of how long I was going to breastfeed both my babies and nothing was going to stop it, but it stopped for me, so I realized that not much of it was in my control and I had to focus on other things, like making sure their formula and their food intake was as healthy as it could be.
We can only do the best that we can do. If you’re working towards that you have to decide to let it go or not, ask yourself if that guilt is serving you in any way and if its not decide to look it in the eyes before saying ‘goodbye’ for good.
It’s easy to see that you want the best for your babes, so carry on mama!