ASK YOUR RELATIVE QUESTIONS

Dear Auntie, I’ve recently started online dating. I’ve held off forever because I’ve heard some horror stories from friends. Have any tips?

If you treat online dating like you would any other type of relationship, this is a good start!

Know What Your Boundaries Are – so that others will too

As we grow and have more experiences, we learn more about the things we do and don’t like when it comes to our physical, emotional, sexual, intellectual, and financial boundaries. If you’re not sure about them, others will pick up on that and that might give them a chance to push them.

Setting up Boundaries

If something doesn’t feel good, or you can tell it’s not helping you grow, then you need to say what you need. Don’t feel like you have to explain yourself either. Keep it simple. You can say things like, “I’m not cool with that”, or “I need some time to myself when I get home”.

The whole purpose of having boundaries is to create a clear place where you thrive and a clear space where the other person can thrive. It’s to protect YOU.

Online Safety Tips

  • Trust your instincts
  • Leave out your address, work, school, who your parents are
  • Meet in public & Take someone with you
  • Know your computer or cell can be used to monitor you
  • Your history can never be completely erased
  • Email can be intercepted like physical mail
  • GPS trackers can be placed on

Call or Text Love Is Respect anytime to help you be safe when using technology

  • TEXT “LOVEIS” to 22522
  • Call 1-800-331-9474

It’s okay to not have it all figured out now. This is a process. Always keep in mind how incredible you are!

Take care,

Auntie Manda

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