For about a year now, I’ve been thinking I might be two-spirited, but I have been too nervous to talk to my family about it, and I just don’t have enough resources to get more info on how to determine this, and I just have no idea where to begin.
Thank you for reaching out. I’m glad you wrote in.
It’s important for you to know that you are not alone. There are resources and people who will have your back however you decide to move forward.
The truth is that some people identify with the another gender, or two, really early on in life (like when they’re 4 or 5 years old), while others go through periods where they question: Do I identify as male? Or female? Or both? Don’t stress. This is all normal!
Your gender orientation will emerge over time, probably little by little. Right now the best thing you can do is give it time and explore and experience your feelings with an open mind.
Connect with others who may have had similar experiences. Start by doing your research:
- Check out We R Native’s website to learn more about LGBTQ2S
- Also check out the Human Rights Campaign. They don’t have a Two-Spirit section, but you can check out their transgender and gender-expansive section, which includes resources for family members.
- Gender Spectrum – has video’s from young people on gender, learn more about genders around the world, and participate in discussion groups, or connect with other young people on The Lounge.
- A Resource Guide to Coming Out Guide also has a lot of good information.
Take some time digesting all this information you’ve learned. Process it. There’s no rush.
If you feel comfortable talking to your family or a close friend now, make sure to consider all the risks and benefits, keeping in mind that you are in charge of your coming out journey.
In the end if you learn that you are Two-Spirit, you may face some unique challenges but you can also find a lot of support and love along the way.
I hope this leads you in the right direction. I’ll be sending you good thoughts and encouragement to live your authentic life, whatever path that may be. 🙂
Take care,
Auntie Manda
