For those of you who aren’t sure what “fap” actually means, “fap” is slang for masturbation. So, to be clear moving forward, this is a discussion about masturbation; which is completely normal. Masturbation is when a person touches his or her own genitals for pleasure. There is no evidence that masturbation is harmful to a person’s health in any way.
Masturbation can be a sensitive topic that you don’t necessarily learn about in sex education. Some people fear the word, or the topic. Some people feel uncomfortable and embarrassment when the topic is brought up. It’s totally normal for one to explore one’s body, as it is going through the stages of change. Not only is it totally natural to masturbate, but it can also help reduce stress, help you sleep better and help improve your body image. Additionally, there is no chance of getting an STD, unwanted pregnancy or those other risks associated with sexual intercourse.
Masturbation is a good way to help identify what you like sexually and what you’re comfortable with. That way if, and when, you decide to have sex with a partner, you’re more knowledgeable and comfortable to communicate what you like and don’t like; which is a vital part of consent.
There are some that view masturbation as a shameful act or a negative behavior. This can put a lot of pressure on people to act in certain ways. Masturbation is a healthy practice and you should in no way feel ashamed for wanting to engage in it. Let’s be clear, it is a common, natural way to explore what you like, release energy and learn about your body. If you have further questions, it is a good idea to talk to a trusted adult like a parent, mentor or someone you trust. Eventually, you will have to decide for yourself.
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