Too scared to ask for money

What to do when you are too scared to ask for money but don’t want to upset anyone?

Yeah, money’s a tricky issue and you’re right in thinking about wanting to make sure everyone feels okay about it.

First, ask yourself if it’s an absolute necessity to ask for a loan. If it’s for something like buying new clothes, a game, or a toy, then you probably don’t want to go that route. You can do without.

However, if it’s for things that are a necessity like buying food, taking care of yourself, or your kids/ family, then consider carefully if you can cut back somewhere else to purchase these things yourself.

Here’s what you can do:

  • Think about how much you need (not want). You don’t want to ask for too much, but you also don’t want to ask for a second loan.
  • Make a plan for how you will repay it. For example, every month you will pay back $20 (depending on how much the loan is and what you can afford to pay back).
  • Think about what would happen if you could not make a repayment. Most loans would require a late payment. Maybe you could agree to babysit, help with chores, like cooking or cleaning. Talk this through with the person you’re asking a loan from. Make this a part of your agreement.
  • Put it in writing, so that it’s clear what the plan is.

Here’s an Example Plan:


_(person giving loan)___ agrees to loan __(your name)___ in the amount of _(amount)__.

__(your name)___ will pay back _(amount)__ every __(monthly/weekly/every paycheck)__until loan is paid.

If a payment is missed, ___(your name)_____ will ____(babysit, cook, clean, add 1% interest)______.

Kudos to you for thinking ahead and wanting to do this the right way.

Best of luck,
Auntie Manda

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