ASK YOUR RELATIVE QUESTIONS

Tags: 02 - Identity, 03 - Intolerance, 06 - 2SLGBTQ

Dear Auntie, I heard someone say that rez water can turn you gay. Is that true?

Hey there! Thanks for writing in. If you’ve heard someone say that tainted water can “turn you gay”, or maybe you heard about frogs that switch sexes. But we’re not frogs and water won’t change your sexuality. Nothing can make you turn gay and nothing will turn you straight. You simply are. Sexuality is a spectrum and wherever you land…

My momma is really homophobic, and I asked her once what she would do if I came out to her. She said she would kick me out and disown me. My dad is pretty homophobic too, and I’m really scared of the finding out on accident that I’m bisexual. Can you help me think of a plan if they do find out?

Before we talk about a plan, I want to send you a big virtual hug. I’m so sorry about hearing how your parents might react. This is such inexcusable and incredibly hurtful behavior coming from people who are supposed to have your back. Just know there are a lot of others who accept you and love you for who you…

Dear Auntie, why do white people hate indians (people from india not natives?)

Well, most minorities around the world tend to be marginalized due to the effects of colonization, which is the establishment of control over a group(s) of occupiers of land. Be critical about where or who you are getting this information or feeling from. What is the background to that story? Are these people and channels of information included in your…

Hey Auntie, how can I come out to my homophobic dad?

Dear Relative, This is a powerful question. My greatest priority is your safety. You are under no obligation to disclose anything about yourself to anyone. If you are wanting to do so, though, which it sounds like you are, develop a safety plan first. Some things to consider in the safety plan might be: If you want to tell him in…

How can I come out to my homophobic dad?

Dear Relative, This is a powerful question. My greatest priority is your safety. You are under no obligation to disclose anything about yourself to anyone. If you are wanting to do so, though, which it sounds like you are, develop a safety plan first. Some things to consider in the safety plan might be: If you want to tell him in…

Dear Auntie, what are you grateful for this year?

I love this question! In reflecting back on this crazy year, one thing that stuck with me was when we first started hearing and preparing for COVID, I, probably alongside most of the world, was looking at the world infection maps. Maps that showed varying sizes of red dots indicating how many cases each country had. Over the course of…

Hi! I have a friend who has learned beadwork from an elder in our community. She has started selling her own work, and while it’s not all indigenous designs and symbols, she’s making a profit off of it all. She’s 100% white. Should I call her out?

Hi Emma! By asking this question I can see that you have some concerns. Listen to your gut…and let’s talk it through. From a design standpoint, Indigenous designs are the bomb. However, what is missing when non-Natives replicate traditional designs is that they are likely to not be taught in the proper ways like the meanings of the sacred elements…
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