Relationships – whether they are with our family members, friends, or significant others – are an important part of being human. But how do we make sure we are in good relationship with others?
Find people you can grow with
Change is constant and inevitable. Seasons change, new buildings get built, and life ebbs and flows. As we grow, we also change as people. Though change can sometimes be hard, it helps if we embrace it as part of the process of becoming who we are meant to be.
Having supportive, healthy relationships that grow as we grow can help us become the best version of ourselves.
Support others
Because relationships are reciprocal – as we receive support from others, it is important for us to give support in return. When we do this, we help our relationships and communities flourish.
Communication is key
Good communication allows us to express our emotions effectively. Whether we are happy, sad, overwhelmed, or need help, it’s useful to be able to communicate our needs to others. Good communication also helps us understand and respond to what others need.
Good communication looks like:
- Expressing what your boundaries are
- Being an active listener
- Understanding different styles of communication
Communication and intimacy
Good communication is also important in intimate relationships. If you decide you and your significant other are ready to be intimate, communication from both sides is necessary. Why? One reason is that you both want to make sure there is clear and enthusiastic consent before you are intimate. It’s also important to feel safe and comfortable enough with someone so that we can communicate how we are feeling in intimate situations, whether you are excited, nervous, or have any concerns.
Relationships can be beautiful and challenging. They are also the foundation for so many things in life. Finding people that you can grow and communicate with will help you, your relationships, and your communities thrive.
To Learn More:
- NCUIH Youth Council Summer 2021 Native Youth Healthy Relationship Workshop
- “Recognizing healthy relationships for Native youth”, Indian Country Today
- “All My Loving Relations”, All My Relatives Podcast
- Effective Communication: Getting the Message Across
- Consent
Author: McKalee Steen is a member of the Cherokee Nation in Oklahoma and is currently a PhD candidate at UC Berkeley in the Environmental Science, Policy, and Management department. She is passionate about studying Indigenous land stewardship practices, providing resources for Indigenous youth, and the power of storytelling.
